adoption · health · self-care

Benefits of horseback riding for special needs children | a guest post by Nicky of Horses and Foals

It is well-known how animals can have a special healing power, especially on traumatised people. I had a chance to personally observe some benefits of horse riding on special needs children. So when I got contacted by Nicky from Horses and Foals about a guest post opportunity, I knew what topic I wanted her to… Continue reading Benefits of horseback riding for special needs children | a guest post by Nicky of Horses and Foals

adoption · child development · finland · life · multicultural families

Getting ready for the special needs list

During the counselling phase, we were asked to fill a special needs list ("Adoptiolapsen tausta – ja terveystietolomake" in Finnish), to assess which special needs we were ready to take on and which not. I recall how my first instinct was repulsion (is this a shopping list?) but rationally I got to understand that no… Continue reading Getting ready for the special needs list

blog series · daddy's got this · parenting

Daddy’s got this #6 | I’m Not A Daddy-Mommy. Please Don’t Call Me That.

I celebrate men who take long parental leaves. How could I not? My husband did the same for our kids, to save my sanity and live his fatherhood to the max. There's plenty of talk around about gender equality and women carrying most of the burden of family life. I feel this is shifting, yet… Continue reading Daddy’s got this #6 | I’m Not A Daddy-Mommy. Please Don’t Call Me That.

finland · health · life · marriage

What saved my marriage: towards a more equal shared life

Let's get real, here: how many of you regularly fight with their partner about house chores or children's care? After our first child was born, my husband and I struggled to find a balance. He threw himself body and soul into parenting, but didn't replicate the same enthusiasm for house chores, which grew exponentially with… Continue reading What saved my marriage: towards a more equal shared life

adoption · child development · expats · interviews · life · multicultural families · multilingualism

Bilingualism in children | Interview to Soile Pietikainen | part 1

I am aware many of my readers are part, like myself, of multilingual families. Or, they are parents who know how a valuable asset a language can be and wonder if they should introduce one in their family. Again, adoptive parents who are considering cultivating their child's birth language. I am excited to share this… Continue reading Bilingualism in children | Interview to Soile Pietikainen | part 1

adoption · child development · health · life · mindfulness · parenting

Connection lost. Trying to reconnect.

I bet you've wondered if the blog (or I) have died, haven't you? Both are alive and kicking, simply holidays got in the way. This year my vacation meant limited internet access and little alone time. I have started the following post while away, but did not find any time to complete it. But now… Continue reading Connection lost. Trying to reconnect.

adoption · life · mindfulness · parenting · self-care

Thoughts on unconditional parental love, compassion, and acceptance

There is a common idea that becoming a parent automatically provides you with the ability to unconditionally love another human being. My personal experience and the world as I grew to see it collide with it. I believe we human beings are programmed to need love, yet quite suck at loving people how they deserve… Continue reading Thoughts on unconditional parental love, compassion, and acceptance

adoption · life · parenting

Learning to manage my expectations over my children

Expectations are powerful beliefs which can heavily influence our experience of reality. During the wait to become a parent, being it through birth or adoption, it's human to develop expectations about your future child. It's all part of the common daydreaming. It can be really tough to let go of the imaginary child and truly… Continue reading Learning to manage my expectations over my children

events · life

My girl’s 5th birthday: disaster averted!

R turned five last month and she was very excited to celebrate with her friends. We have a family policy of inviting all her daycare class to parties. We can afford to do so since we rent a public venue very close to where we live for a fair price. It's a safe and kids-friendly… Continue reading My girl’s 5th birthday: disaster averted!

adoption · health · life · parenting · self-care

I do not want to live in fantasy motherland

E and I were driving back home the other day, when I had a moment of self-realisation. In the past years, in the last especially, I have been working hard on defining the mother I am and how it relates to the mother I want to be and to the mother I would like to… Continue reading I do not want to live in fantasy motherland